Spiritual 

Psalm 37:3-5 (NLT) - Trust in the Lord and do good. Then you will live safely in the land and prosper. Take delight in the Lord, and he will give you your heart’s desires. Commit everything you do to the Lord. Trust him, and he will help you.

1. Trust in the Lord and do good. 
   1. It doesn’t matter what season of life you are in; you have to start with trust. 
   2. Even when you don’t understand him, trust him. 
   3. Some of us trust the stock market more than we do the Lord.
   4. The reason you are frustrated is because you have stopped trusting him. When You trust, You have peace. 
2. Take delight in the Lord. - This is the next step; once you trust him, you delight in Him. He is your priority; He is your desire!  
3. Commit everything you do to the Lord. The last step is to commit your whole life to him—your heart, your mind, your finances, and your relationships!  
4. Renew your mind
   1. Romans 12:2 says, "Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind."
   2. I believe there must be a renewal of the mind in this area. We have been inundated with so much from the world through movies, music, television, and conversations. We need a new perspective in this arena. 

Practical

I. Mindset for Singles

We first need to establish the correct mindset when it comes to singleness. 

Singleness is a season, not a sentence.

1. Being single is a relationship status, not your identity. It’s not a curse.  
2. Some people are embarrassed to be single. 
3. Be secure in your singleness. 
4. There is nothing wrong with being single. Some of the most significant people in the Bible were single.
   1. Paul: A vocal advocate of singleness who considered it a gift from God 
   2. Anna: A prophet who was widowed and worshiped God daily 
   3. John the Baptist: Never married  
   4. Jeremiah: He said he sat alone because His hand was upon him. 
5. Embrace the season you are in. 
6. Go on adventures; do things on your bucket list. Build wealth; build yourself.
7. Solomon says there is a time and a season for everything under the sun. 
8. No one will love you more than you love yourself. You must be comfortable with yourself first. 

II. Mindsets for singles who are wanting to get married:  

Here are some mindsets you should consider when it comes to dating. 

Mindset # 1- Allow time for your mind to be renewed. 

1. Too often, I see new converts jumping into relationships carrying old mindsets. 
2. If you are not healthy, you will not find health 
3. Dysfunction will always find dysfunction
4. All the world’s mindsets regarding love and dating don’t transfer over. They are not credits from college 
   1. Whose you are matters.
      1. You are a child of the King.
      2. You are bought with a price.
      3. You are a royal priesthood.
   2. Begin to see yourself differently. 
   3. When you change, the type of people you desire and attract changes. 

Mindset # 2- You are worth the wait

1. Don’t let time discourage you. Remember your value.
2. Too many people sell themselves short because they are tired or afraid of waiting. 
3. I’m reminded of the man who was sizing up God by asking, “God how long is a million years to you?” God said, “A million years is like a second.” Then the man asked, “How much is a million dollars to you?” God said, “A million dollars is like a penny.” The man smiled and said, “Could you spare me a penny?” God smiled back and said, “Sure, just wait a second.”
4. I would rather wait for the right one than settle for the wrong one.
5. Some may say I have somebody even if I have the wrong one. The goal is not just to get someone but to keep them.  
6. Psalm 27:13 -14 - I remain confident of this: I will see the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living. 14Wait for the Lord; be strong and take heart and wait for the Lord.
7. Trust that the Lord has your best interest in mind. 

Mindset #3 - Involve others in the dating process

1. The worst thing you can do is try to figure it out by yourself 
2. Involve parents, mentors, and close friends to help you decide. 
3. Don’t trust your own discernment. That’s how you end up in “Situationships,” and “It’s Complicateds”

Mindset #4  - The only “Perfect One” is Jesus 

1. Don’t let “The List” disable you
2. I have watched people pass up on some great people because they didn’t have one minor quality on their list. 
3. Sometimes, we are so focused on finding someone who meets all the qualifications on our list that we stop focusing on being who we need to be.  

III. Mindset for those single again:

Mindset: Holiness still matters 

1. We don’t get to apply new rules because we have been married before.

Close: It’s okay to be happy and single. Remember, you are not alone because you have the greatest companion you could ever want: Jesus. Trust in the Lord and do good. Take delight in the Lord. Commit everything you do to the Lord.